Happy International Women's Day to all those who identify themselves as one.
I just listened to an ad on the radio, female's voice was sharing some empowering messages, ending with a sentence "don't let anyone tell you that you have to wear a bra". I understand what the message is but it did make me reflect on purpose in life.
Am I expected to wear (or not to wear) a bra?
Whose expectations are those?
Being brought up with messages like "be a good girl" and "be ambitious", I am very grateful to my family to support me with most of my choices in life. Now, as a mother, wife, and professional, I ask myself a question- what is my purpose? Is it to be "a good and ambitious woman"? Is this what I want or is it what others expect from me?
Many of my coaching clients find themselves unhappy or lost due to a lack of conscious purpose in life/work. Many of the people I work with are fulfilling someone else's expectations and missed opportunities and dreams. They might find themselves in powerful positions, on the top of the career ladder but somehow they are not happy and feel like something is missing.
3 questions to ask yourself
After reading an article on mindtools.com I discuss those points with my clients:
1: Do you need to change your mindset?
First of all, we need to take responsibility for our actions, dreams, and goals. Sometimes finding our purpose requires us to change our attitude and behavior. If we do what we have always done, we will get the same results every time.
2: What is your situation now?
What do you really enjoy and what does not serve you at all? What would be helpful to incorporate in your life to enhance your happiness levels?
3: What is really important to you?
Going back to your values and checking if you live according to those is a really important step in finding your purpose.
Finding (or rediscovering) your purpose might not only enhance your career progression but also make you happier, healthier, and more productive at work.
If you would like to rediscover your purpose and explore how you can use this in your career and life- please do get in touch to schedule a coaching session. ( All are welcome: women, men, and those who do not identify with any gender)